Last year insideMAN published a letter from an Iranian father-to-be from London who wrote to us asking for help in stopping his wife circumcising their son.
We recently contacted him to find out what had happened. His response is posted below. We have kept the father’s identity anonymous to protect the identity of his son.
The support I received through insideMAN was invaluable, you were the only people who seemed to understand what I was going through. Sadly, after taking legal advice, I felt the only way to keep my family together was to go along with my wife’s wishes.
At least I could be there to support my son, rather than taking the risk that she would do it behind my back. So we went to a doctor in Harley Street together and I cried throughout the procedure and he was crying his eyes out too. The moment the operation was over I snatch him from the nurses arms and whispered in his ear that he will never have to go through such trauma ever again.
I couldn’t believe how much blood was in his nappy and I had to take him to a second specialist to find out if he was okay, because the first doctor didn’t tell us what to expect.
I still feel frustrated and heartbroken that I was unable to protect my son and since the operation. I have recently developed alopecia, which I think was caused by the stress of this situation.
I’m sad to say that the sparkle from my relationship with my wife has completely gone and I have been so deeply touched by what happened that I don’t think it can be repaired.
But my son is such a delight. I’m being a really hands-on dad and we’ve bonded really well. He loves being in my company and when I return from work he cries out as soon as he hears my voice.
He is the best thing to ever happen to me. We have bonded so well, it feels like he knows how much I care about him and when he is old enough and will share this article with him so he knows what happened.
Photo: Ran Yaniv Hartstein
You can read the original letter here.
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